Despite the fact that Addison refuses to talk to Neal on the phone, she is really missing her daddy. I know this because she has been a whiny, tantrumy, repeatedly stripping down nude [Why did you take your diaper off? "Because I wasn't 'pose to."] mess of a girl since the day he left. Although Neal has been loathe to give up on her pack-n-play and transition her to a new sleeping arrangement, despite the fact that she is climbing out routinely these days, she finally forced my hand last night when she climbed out at bedtime and refused to get back in. What could I do? There’s no way for me to physically keep her in there. So about an hour and a half after her bedtime, we set up a makeshift “big kid” bed.
If it hadn’t been 9:30 at night and I wasn’t exhausted from a long day of defiance, it actually would have been really entertaining. When she saw me breaking down the pack-n-play, she asked what I was doing. When I replied, “We’re going to get another bed,” she ecstatically yelled, “I LOVE a other bed!” And when my mom brought in the old crib mattress that my brother and I used to sleep on, some 35 years old, she exclaimed, “Wow! It’s SO NEW!” (It seems like our plan to keep Addison’s material expectations in life low is working out well so far.) She kept repeating the refrain, “It’s so beautiful. My very own bed is so beautiful.”
But now a question for you more experienced parents: since birth Addison has always liked to sleep crammed into corners and up against walls. She’s quite a mover, day and night, which is one reason we have been reluctant to transition her out of something with walls. But now that we have to, I’m wondering, do kids that move a lot eventually train themselves to stay more still while they sleep? Or will we need to put up barriers of some kind to keep her on the bed? At this point, I’m not so concerned about safety since she is only a few inches off the ground, it’s more about the fact that when she rolls off the bed, she wakes herself up. And since she’s not a stellar sleeper to begin with, this has me worried. But at the same time, if we do put some sort of barrier up, maybe it is only postponing the inevitable — that she needs to learn to sleep in a more stationary position, something that her same age cousins are already adept at. Any thoughts?
Remember that one time you gave us great potty training advice. Well, we need to hear from you again, especially if you’ve ever potty-trained a kid with chronic constipation! Addison has struggled with bowel movements basically since she started solid foods — even when she was eating solely pureed foods. (How a baby can get constipated from puree I will never understand!) We’ve tried most of the usual things to alleviate her difficulties (flax oil; flax seed; limiting breads, dairy, bananas; obsessing about fiber intake). Thus far daily prune juice has been most successful at keeping her semi-regular.
But the problem this poses with potty training is when to actually put her on the potty for pooping. Quite often she will tell us she needs to poop, complete with grunting, watery eyes, and muscle contractions, but nothing comes. Repeat again two hours later. And again. When this happened this week, she finally pooped about 26 hours after she first started telling me she was working on it. And it’s not just a false alarm — she was obviously working on it periodically for two days. She would hide for a few minutes (“I need privacy”), exhaust herself, and then, with flushed face, come tell me it was “hard work” and “I couldn’t do it.”
So when we go for the more aggressive potty training (as opposed to the very slow-paced potty learning we’ve done thus far), do we put her on the potty every time she is working on a poop, even if realistically we know we’re probably at least 8 hours away from the actual bowel movement? How long have you actually made your child stay on the potty when they were working on a poop? Also, if you had a kid like this in terms of bowel movement difficulty, has it resolved itself with age?