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July 29, 2010

Speaking of personal . . .

Filed under: Family, Personal — Tags: , , , — llcall @ 6:00 pm

What could be more so than sleeping arrangements? 🙂

But seriously, everyone already knows that Neal and I don’t sleep in the same bed or room.  So it’s not personal anymore.  It is, however, a topic that’s getting greater attention, as new custom homes are increasingly built with dual master bedrooms and studies have found that almost 1 in 4 married couples sleep separately.  If you’re interested, this link includes a video clip from the Today show as well as a NY Times article weighing the pros and cons.

Even with our personal experience, Neal and I were both surprised to read the 1 in 4 statistic.  I fear that next Sunday at church, I’ll be looking around asking myself, do they or don’t they?



  1. I saw this on where they attempted to say how damaging it is to one’s marriage. And that couples who decide to sleep apart must have something else bothering them in their marriage. I just laughed–how ludicrous is that? It has taken me a long long time to get as good a night’s sleep as I used to get while single 😀 I seriously contemplating sleeping separately too!

    Comment by Emily Tew — July 29, 2010 @ 6:28 pm

    • We got similar responses when people first found out we were sleeping separately after a few weeks…headed straight for divorce 😉

      Comment by llcall — July 30, 2010 @ 3:47 pm

  2. Very enlightening. I spent the first month of my married life being more tired than I have ever been before, because Bryan snores. We tried having a fan for white noise, but that didn’t work. Then we tried having me go to bed first, and that sort of worked, unless I woke up for some reason during the night, and then I couldn’t get back to sleep. For a while I used industrial earplugs, but it’s kind of freaky to go to sleep and not be able to hear anything. He finally went in for a sleep study ( and has been using a CPAP machine ever since. Problem solved. I enjoy sleeping in the same bed. I would miss it.

    Comment by Chelsey — July 30, 2010 @ 1:46 am

    • Even though Neal and I only slept in the same bed for about 2 weeks total, I can relate to “missing” it, Chels. About once a month, I suggest to Neal that we sleep in the same bed, thinking it sounds fun. About twice a year, he agrees…and I proceed to have the worst night ever and in the morning, I’m so mad that I ever thought it was a good idea! I’m glad the CPAP is making such a big difference; sleep apnea runs in my mom’s family, so a bunch of her siblings have those too.

      Comment by llcall — July 30, 2010 @ 3:46 pm

  3. Not in separate beds, for sure. But, in order for me to sleep well, it is essential that we come to bed at the same time. (Sometimes I can deal with Diane reading in bed, but sometimes it makes my sleep fitful) If I come to bed late, my mind is racing, and I can’t fall asleep. If she comes to bed late, I get jarred from my restfulness,can’t get to dream state the rest of the night, and feel horrible the next day.

    Comment by Robin-Elise Call — August 5, 2010 @ 8:48 pm

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