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March 15, 2011

Dates with Neal . . .

are comical, to say the least.  Partially because he is a funny guy, and partially because he often catches just a hint of something that sounds like a good idea for a date — a movie, a reading, an art exhibit — but turns out to be not quite what we expected.

Case in point: two weeks ago he took me to what he  thought was a lecture on teaching in prisons.  Romantic, right?!  The speaker, Jill McDonough, is an adjunct professor at Boston University and works with its Prison Education Program, one of the few remaining in the country.  What Neal didn’t realize is that it was actually a poetry reading in which McDonough read poems from her Habeas Corpus collection, a series of sonnets about the history of the death penalty in the U. S.  Super fascinating and meaningful, but not quite as romantic with all the severed heads and blood splatters.

Of course, my all-time favorite is when after passing an International Cinema movie poster, which maybe looked a little something like this:

From here

he thought, Cool, let’s go see a movie about deep-sea diving and the ocean.

And so we did, except it was actually about a man who has a massive stroke and is completely paralyzed except for one eye.  Of course, he’s not an entirely sympathetic character, having previously left his children and their mother for a mistress, but a few minutes into the film I was weeping nonetheless.  Not quite what Neal was going for.

Still, if you haven’t seen The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, it is beautiful and thought-provoking and more life-affirming than depressing.  And you can thank Neal for his excellent, accidental taste in movies.



  1. Hahaha! I love this. Who needs all that shmoozy, cheesy stuff anyway, right? On another note, The Diving Bell and the Butterfly was one of the first books Derrick and I read together as a couple. Despite the hype, we weren’t too blown away. I’m trying to remember if we finished it…? But I’d still really like to see the movie, especially if you recommend it, m’dear.

    Comment by Jen — March 15, 2011 @ 2:09 pm

    • One of the things I loved about the movie was not so much the story but how they stylistically filmed an interesting movie about someone who is completely paralyzed — there are some really cool shots! The book would certainly be missing that aspect for me.

      Comment by llcall — March 15, 2011 @ 3:33 pm

  2. People in Provo went to that????… 😉

    Comment by Audrey — March 15, 2011 @ 7:51 pm

  3. Bryan and I loved The Diving Bell and the Butterfly. We saw it when it was originally released. It’s an excellent film.

    Comment by Chelsey — March 15, 2011 @ 8:53 pm

  4. I found this post very comical! What fun dates! Nothing says foreplay like habeus corpus! I told my husband about these dates and he thought they were great ideas–nothing strange! Silly husbands.

    Comment by Christina Nelson — March 16, 2011 @ 2:24 am

  5. By coincidence, the librarian recommended this movie to me last night when she noted I checked out “The Sea Inside,” starring Javier Bardem as a paraplegic, a film exploring the mystery of freedom, love, & life.
    Last week I asked Kevin to an archaeology lecture entitled, “Leprosy in Medieval Ireland,” but he happily declined. Too bad–it was fabulous; doesn’t know what he missed, besides my scintillating company!
    He did like the movie, however, so he gets some credit, as do the two of you for your spontaneous date creativity. Yay for Neal & Lindsay! And it wasn’t even Christmas Day!

    Comment by Lorie Call — March 16, 2011 @ 8:04 am

    • I’ve seen “The Sea Inside” as well, but I preferred “The Diving Bell,” probably both stylistically and content-wise. “The Sea Inside” was good, but a little too political about a difficult issue for my taste. But it does have such beautiful long shots of the ocean and also made me cry!

      Comment by llcall — March 16, 2011 @ 3:25 pm

      • Amenabar, who claims he is not political (but life is!), tried to respectfully show alternative views with the characters of Ramon & Julia (he thinks he would have made Julia’s choice). Superb acting by Javier Bardem and others in “The Sea Inside,” so I look forward to “The Diving Bell.” I’m a sucker for seascapes having been raised by the sea. I’m sure you agree!

        Comment by Lorie Call — March 18, 2011 @ 7:11 am

  6. One of the funniest posts in a while. You two are perfect for each other, my goodness.

    Comment by Brandon — March 17, 2011 @ 2:55 am

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