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October 13, 2011

I should be going to bed RIGHT NOW . . .

Filed under: Family, Personal — Tags: , — llcall @ 5:28 am

But first, something about Addison that I want to be part of her permanent record: she is amazingly sweet.

I got back from my brother/sister-in-law’s house last night.  There’s nothing like being with other kids for six days (I have two nieces — three and 18 months — but by some twist of fate I was actually watching six kids at one point during the trip.  ME??  I know!) to bring into sharp relief your own child’s strong points and less-than-strong points.  I noticed something about Addison that I’ve seen before, but never so consistently.

So first, a backstory.  I went to visit my amazing friend Rachael before I left Utah.  She had her first baby a couple of months before (coincidentally named Addisen) and her little Addisen was having a not-so-happy day when we visited.  I was trying to calm little Addie down (my Addison has never been jealous of me holding other babies, perhaps because she adores babies and me holding them helps her get a better look) when my Addison went over to her diaper bag, grabbed her beloved bunny (her #1 comfort object that will soon have to be called dirty, filthy bunny since she loves on it so much) and favorite blanket and gave them to the baby.  She tried to cuddle them right up to her to help her calm down.  Honestly, it kind of surprised me because even though I already knew Addison was a sweetie, she loves her bunny with such a fierceness, I never expected her to give it up so willingly.  (Was that story super confusing with all the Addisen/Addie/Addisons?  Maybe I’m just tired, but it seems really convoluted . . . )

So fast forward to last Thursday when I was watching six kids at once, and an almost four-year-old inexplicably started sobbing.  It happened so suddenly and I honestly had no idea why, so I just sat her down on the couch next to me and tried to give her some squeezes.  The other kids just went on with their play (especially her six-year-old brother, who perhaps had something to do with the tears as brothers so often do) but Addison spent the next several minutes searching the room for comfort objects or diversions, gently laying them on the couch next to this little girl.  A blanket, a stuffed animal, a toy, a book.  I was totally taken by her concern and persistence in trying to find something to soothe this twice-her-age girl.

It happened often over the weekend — another child was crying and she would follow the sounds to see why they were crying and if she could help.  Once when my three-year-old niece was crying in the bathroom, Addison wasn’t sure if she should enter.  So she summoned me to the bathroom and made a sad face (her “sad lip” is definitely one of her most adorable expressions).  She pointed at her bottom lip and then at the door to be sure I understood that there was a sad child on the premises.

Our girl is an expressive little thing . . . she still pantomimes and reenacts all her hurts (which this weekend involved her violently slamming her head into my sister-in-law’s ottoman because, you know, she wanted everyone to know that she had JUST slammed her head into the ottoman) and somehow it seems tied to her watchfulness and concern for others’ hurts and sorrows.  Of all the strengths that a child could have, this feels like a wonderful one to observe in my little girl.



  1. So sweet. I can’t wait to see Addison soon.

    Comment by Andrea — October 13, 2011 @ 12:19 pm

  2. Don’t you love just falling in love with your child? I love falling in love with my child, and your child too!

    Comment by vblanchard — October 13, 2011 @ 8:49 pm

  3. Ok….now I want a girl! Or maybe I just want your baby!

    Comment by kei02003 — October 14, 2011 @ 6:33 pm

  4. My goodness! I can’t believe how much she cares for others? Where was she when I cried last?

    Comment by Andie — October 18, 2011 @ 8:40 pm

    • I meant to say I can’t believe how much she cares for others! Wrong punctuation in my own sentences gets on my nerves.

      Comment by Andie — October 18, 2011 @ 8:42 pm

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